No matter how much you go to the house of your dreams, in the middle of a breathtaking setting, if it doesn’t fit with Geraldine, your friend Nathan’s new girlfriend, the holidays will become hell. But as sociologist Jean Viard says, “the purpose of vacations is to try to have as few constraints as possible. There is no point in leaving with your friends if it is to create monstrous ones ”. Choosing the right holiday friends is therefore just as crucial a step as choosing the destination.
For the sociologist who wrote the book The triumph of a utopia – Thinking about travel and vacations, if 70% of French people leave with their family, it is among other things “because they have the same education, the same codes”. The objective will therefore be to select friends with codes that suit you.
The cicadas on one side, the ants on the other
One of the most important things to adjust to is money. And by money do not mean the salary, but the relationship your friends have to their money. A link that is not necessarily perceptible in everyday life. “On vacation, you spend your day spending on a beer, a restaurant, activities … The way to manage your budget is essential to avoid conflicts”, estimates Jean Viard.
It is for this reason that we do not necessarily go with the friends that we frequent all year round. “We have holiday friends just like we have New Year’s friends. They are old friends that we only see in this context because they do not live in our city, for example. It is a special form of friendship. “
What if we trusted the planets?
Besides the relationship to money, you wonder if Maxime, with whom you are going on vacation for the first time, will get along well with Manon, your old travel friend? It’s hard to anticipate group chemistry and predict that Ingrid and Antoine will end up losing each other over a dark washing machine story… Unless you trust the science of the planets. And why not ? If the astrologer in cellular memory Philippe Sonneville recalls that “the personality is not based only on the solar sign alone but on the nine other planets of the solar system and their interactions between them, the astrological sign of your friends can however give good indications”.
Tradition tells us that the fire signs (Aries, Leo and Sagittarius) get along with the air signs (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius). Because from the point of view of the elements, air signs feed fire. The same goes for the earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) friends with the water signs (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio) because they nourish the earth and also need it.
“But everything is also a question of balance and dosage. If in the relationship there is too much air, therefore too much chatter that does not lead to action, the situation can become explosive with the signs of fire. If there is not enough air, that is to say intellectual stimulation, the relationship may die of boredom, ”explains the astrologer.
Go with your friends and their “+1”
The obstacles to forming the ideal gang don’t stop at the character of your friends. If we say that friends are the family we choose, when it comes to their half, we rarely ask for your opinion … You have a dilemma: support Geraldine or offer a vacation with friends and without a spouse . Perhaps take advantage of your friends while there is still time, because after the halves that we do not choose, come the children for whom there too, no one has consulted you.
“There is a somewhat difficult period when some have children and others do not”, underlines Jean Viard for whom the ease remains “to leave with friends who have children of the same age”. For the sociologist, these couples can also become regular vacation partners as the children grow older.
Infant does not always rhyme with the exclusion of groups without children, on condition of getting organized. “It will be better to opt for a second home with separate spaces rather than a campsite”, suggests Jean Viard. Finally, in the category of +1 that we do not choose, come dogs and cats who themselves are not always unanimous. “They can even be as discriminating as a baby,” says Jean Viard.
A little more astrology for the undecided!
In addition to the codes, the character and the +1, it is also the destination of the holidays which will define the agreement between the members of the group. “An earth sign like Taurus can get along with an air sign like Libra, with which it is not necessarily compatible, provided you go to the beach,” says Philippe Sonneville. The first likes to laze in the sun and the second is a sign of seduction that will love to show off her latest bikini! “
And to choose which sign to go on vacation with, the astrologer has concocted a little overview of each person’s strengths:
RAM : An ideal fire sign for a sporting holiday, because it will boost and train you.
Taurus : They are perfect for a stay in nature because they will make you appreciate taking your time, understanding the intimate link between you and what surrounds you or simply making you discover the best restaurants.
Gemini : You can take him anywhere as long as he has a book in his pocket and the intellectual exchanges do not scare you since it is a sign of exploration and chatter.
Cancer : Trust him for a family vacation with children. He will find the comfortable and intimate cocoon away from the crowd.
Lion : You will be leaving for a festive holiday, because he likes to show off, play, shine.
Virgin : The ideal sidekick for followers of well-organized things.
Balance : Go with him if you want to multiply cultural visits.
Scorpio : He will take you with him on his journeys to experience extreme vacations.
Sagittarius : They are perfect for escaping abroad to meet the inhabitants, quite simply because it is the sign of the distant.
Capricorn : With him, it will be a vacation in the mountains, where he is comfortable and will therefore know how to make you appreciate this environment.
Aquarius : Turn to them for an innovative and somewhat unusual journey.
Fish : Obviously the best companion for the seaside.
You can of course choose to go with the friends who are quite simply available on the same dates as you, but you will have been warned.