The August heat is suffocating. Summer has taken hold in Toulouse, where the streets are gradually emptying. Locals who haven’t had the chance to go on vacation can now easily find a place on the terrace to sip a water mint or a Spritz while looking into the whites of their eyes, the friend, the boyfriend, the crush … And if Lhe weather is calm in the heart of the Pink City, it is rather the storm on the side of the hearts of three bachelors: Anastasia, Julien and Jasmine.
Jasmine who “crushes hard”
Jasmine, who preferred to let things happen on their own, has been rather enterprising since the beginning of the holidays. Behind her cycling glasses, the pretty brunette pedals behind love. “I had a first date at my house. There was no more. It was nice but I didn’t have the feeling romantic. So I tasted it”, she confides, not really proud of this “ghost”. But she didn’t waste her time. The twenty-something who dreaded the girls’ intentions can’t stop. His jackpot? Tinder! : “Easier in the end than flirting face-to-face. “After a failed first date, the Toulousaine repeated the experience. The girl was “beautiful, super nice”. “It’s clearly matched between us but I don’t think it will get serious. »
Why make it simple when you can make it complicated ? Indeed, the vacationer has a beautiful young lady in mind: “I’ve been talking to her for a few weeks but she lives near Montpellier so for the moment, we can’t see each other”, begins to explain the new romantic who discovers herself. “I see her for a whole weekend at the end of August. We have already planned to do a lot of things. I can’t wait to see her! “, still enthuses the one who” crushes hard “. The fact remains that between now and this famous weekend, Jasmine will continue to make other encounters without ultimately “too much hope”: her vacationer squats all her thoughts.
The + of Lucie Mariotti: “It’s always interesting for a human being to have the validation of another person. But the latter will only validate the answer that Jasmine already has in her heart, ”explains the coach love concerning the different dates of the 22-year-old student who keeps her Montpellier in mind. “His ego wants to meet people because it’s a form of security, it avoids waiting. It can allow him to reassure himself in case things don’t work out with this girl. But love is great and beautiful only when it is lived in a great and beautiful way. So if this Jasmine is looking for, it’s a real story of the heart, I invite her to wait romantically before seeing the chosen one of her heart. »
Julien who is always “afraid of getting attached”
On the Julien side, things have changed quite a bit. Recall that our hardened bachelor was “disgusted by love” [et mettait de belles œillères sur sa peur de l’engagement]. Well, the young man met and the feeling went well right away: “We had a drink. We got along very well. I liked her very much. We decided to meet again and we continue to see each other regularly, to go on dates, to have a good time and it’s going very well! But there’s a catch: “It could really be a girl I could be in a relationship with but I really don’t want that right now.” I don’t want to tell her but I’m afraid to get attached to her. “The two lovebirds have not yet had the famous discussion. Are they on the same wavelength? Does she expect more from this relationship than him? The fact remains that chasing the natural, it comes back at a gallop, and Julien is definitely still afraid of commitment.
The + of Lucie Mariotti: “His fears and his doubts are only played between him and him alone”, determines the famous coach of the Villa of broken hearts. “I advise him to start a written dialogue with himself to express his fears and also his confidence. He organizes a debate between the two. Fear will speak of commitment, attachment, for example. Trust can reassure him about an attachment that will induce a desire to commit. It will be a discussion with himself which can greatly help him. »
Anastasia dating her ex she “still had in mind”
The bad – or the good? – student of the last few weeks is Anastasia. Our “heart of artichoke” is certainly dated, but leaving its “taste for adventure” at home. The student preferred to return to an ex-boyfriend. A taste of unfinished business, a need to close the book definitively, or simply the choice of ease? “I still had it in my head even though we haven’t been together for three years,” admits Anastasia. It’s back to her parents, she found her neighbor… well, ex-boyfriend. “Something tied me to him. I think I had to get to the bottom of it. We met again, we had our appointment and it was done. It was over, ”says the young woman who feels much freer. Maybe for a new love story.
The + of Lucie Mariotti: For Lucie Mariotti, “the fact that Anastasia has returned to date her ex should not shame her. She did it because she was on familiar ground, it was her comfort zone. We are never safe from a good surprise, ”flattens the love coach. “The taste for the unfinished is understandable. Sometimes you need to come full circle to be able to turn the page completely. The fact that it was not conclusive allowed him to say to himself ”OK, I close this book and I can move forward serenely”, adds Lucie Mariotti. According to our expert, going back to an ex can be a good idea… it all depends on the reasons for doing it: “You always have to be wise and ask yourself the right questions. If the answers are positive and wise, you have to go. »
Dear readers, here are some tips from Lucie Mariotti for a successful date : “It must allow both to live an experience beyond the encounter. For example, someone who likes architecture will suggest a trip to Paris to see the beautiful monuments. Someone who likes gardens, will propose a picnic in a park for example, etc. This helps to discover the person in a more authentic way. When you are face to face in a cafe and just drink or dine, the person is frozen like a photograph. We don’t have all of his gestures, his way of being, etc. “. According to the love coach, there are several advantages to doing an activity: “at least, if the appointment is ”missed”, that is to say that the person does not please you, you will have done something something you enjoy or have discovered. And then, it allows more spontaneity. »
For more advice, you can visit Lucie Mariotti’s website: https://luciemariotti.com/