Imagine, you show up at a restaurant, your mind focused on the dishes you are going to enjoy. Avocado toast as a starter, 4-cheese pizza as a dish? Neither, because the establishment has refused you access. The reason ? You are unaccompanied.
A bewildering situation, which however happened to Barcelona, no later than this summer. So, we wondered how things were going beyond the Pyrenean chain. Cinema, theatre, concerts: are you a fan of solitary activities? According to our readership, you are never better accompanied than by yourself.
“I did activities alone that I might not have done if I had been accompanied”
For Marc, this is even obvious. “The question is incongruous: the cinema, restaurants, the theater are not reserved only for couples or groups… For my part, I find it normal to go to the cinema or restaurant alone. It’s the people who can’t do that that seem weird to me. »
“Going out alone in our society can be complicated, but once you get there, you get a taste for it! I love going on a weekend or a short solo trip, going to museums or going to the cinema alone, it allows you to enjoy your own company and take time for yourself in a different way. I did activities alone that I might not have done if I had been accompanied,” adds Sarah.
Our two readers may be able to convince Stanislas, who fears finding himself with his shadow. “In my case, all these activities I do in a group. So if no one other than me is motivated, I don’t go there, surely for fear of running out of bearings in a public place. On the other hand, these places can be conducive to encounters and going there alone makes perfect sense. »
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According to the testimonies that have come down to us, the use of solo outings is above all a matter of independence. “I don’t have any friends and my husband doesn’t like to go out and works a lot, but I don’t see why I should deprive myself of going out! I like to go to the museum alone and make the most of my visit, the same for the cinema. says Sarah. “On the other hand, for the theater or concerts I no longer need to share the moment with someone. »
Ingrid, she “does not want to wait for people to be available between their work and their family life” to take advantage of it. “At the cinema we don’t talk, play sports, go for a drink with a good book or just watch passers-by, it’s not sad and leaves room for encounters. Finding yourself with yourself is better than staying isolated because you don’t dare go out alone.
Same story for Pascale: “I go to concerts, shows, the cinema, museums or see exhibitions often alone. I don’t wait to find someone to do something that interests me, and besides, I’m not looking for anyone. When my spouse is interested, he accompanies me. But we each have our own interests and I’d rather enjoy it alone than with someone who isn’t interested. »
Rather alone than in bad company
Because yes, some might object that people who go solo are mostly single. Nay. Alex, “even being in a relationship, [s’] always grants a short week alone in the year. My husband understands this perfectly. It allows me to recharge my batteries and think only of myself. And yes, it is important to be selfish from time to time”.
When my partner is not available or not interested in something, why would I deprive myself of doing it anyway? asks David. “That’s how I went on a solo trip to Finland a few years ago, and it’s still one of my best experiences ever! You will have understood it, no need to be accompanied to live your best life.