Stay or go? Separation coach Torsten Geiling reveals how to find clarity in a relationship crisis – and how to separate properly.
Mr. Geiling, you work as a separation consultant. What exactly do clients learn from you?
The people who come to me don’t necessarily have to separate. Basically, I am someone who supports other people – before, during or after a separation or in relationship crises. Although most of my clients break up, there are also some who – after reflecting on themselves – go to couples therapy or try to solve the problems with their partner on their own. I don’t separate anyone. For me it’s about seeing more clearly and deciding on what you actually want.
Why many people shy away from the end of the relationship
What are the most common reasons for a breakup?
I have many clients between the ages of mid-30s and mid-50s who have been in a relationship for a long time. These are the ones for whom love has been lost to some extent. Where there may still be closeness because you are used to a lot of things and have experienced a lot together, there is no longer an erotic couple relationship. People have grown apart. Or they are younger people who have slipped into a relationship but are increasingly realizing that it is too different.