Relationship jet lag affects both partners equally – one feels restricted and misunderstood, the other feels neglected. Therefore, it is important to overcome this condition quickly. But how can this be achieved? After all, you can’t just adjust your jobs to suit each other’s rhythms or quit to accommodate your partner. Speak openly with each other and let your partner know how you feel about the current situation. If you both feel like you are no longer on the same wavelength and are living on autopilot mode, then this is a clear sign of relationship jet lag. Realization is the first step to change. By being aware of these feelings, you can decide whether you want to do something about them. Open and honest communication plays a crucial role here. For example, you can tell your partner that you are still stressed after work and need a quick break before you can talk together over dinner. Or you can walk part of the way home to organize your thoughts and calm down instead of reacting unkindly or being emotionless. Are you afraid of a physical separation, for example if your partner spends a weekend at the wellness center with their best friends? The conversation can help here too. Ask yourself what is worrying you and why you are sad. Maybe treat yourself to a special activity this weekend that isn’t necessarily related to your usual couple routine. The solution to this problem (and many others in relationships) is always the same: communication, communication, communication! In this way, you show how important you are to each other and don’t give relationship jet lag a chance.
When couples are not on the same wavelength
