Tiktok trend “Hating your girlfriend” puts men in a bad light

TikTok trend
“Hating your girlfriend”: Social media phenomenon puts men in relationships in a bad light

On TikTok you can often see horrified women’s faces at the moment. The reason: You have read a Twitter thread – and want to express your horror at some men.

The older ones among us will remember: for decades, yellowed joke and cartoon books, skits and cabaret routines consisted largely of men complaining about how terrible their marriages were and how terrible their wives were. In recent years, this has rightly seemed like a relic of the past to young people, more pitiful than understandable. A coping strategy from times when marriages were often more of a must than an option, were usually concluded after only a short period of getting to know each other and divorce was usually not an option.

Nowadays you choose your partners freely, relationships can be ended if they no longer work and the only one who is still successful with anachronistic women’s jokes is perhaps Mario Barth. But suddenly, similar trite, misogynistic, derogatory sayings suddenly pop up again elsewhere: A tweet recently triggered an unpleasant social media trend that was spreading on the video platform Tiktok spread: “When you start hating your girlfriend”. When you start hating your girlfriend.

Men complain about unhappy relationships

The Twitter user “Luu”, who describes himself as a “social media influencer”, has 68,864 followers on Twitter, but attracts attention almost exclusively with infantile incel sayings. He started the wave with what was actually a completely banal tweet: “The phase in which you start to hate your girlfriend is crazy,” he tweeted. And added examples: “When you start messing up so she breaks up, but she keeps forgiving you.” Or: “When you have a bad day and she hugs you – and that makes it even worse.”

Any adult would probably think: “What?” If you feel so uncomfortable in your relationship, then it’s better to talk to your partner and break up. Not pretty, not easy, but a relatively simple solution to the problem. But some men don’t seem to have that much respect for their girlfriends or themselves. In the corresponding Twitter thread, there are countless comments from men describing how much their partners get on their nerves and the (more or less) subtle methods they use to get them to break up.

Bad treatment instead of ending the relationship

You read that right. Silly tricks are used to get the woman to do the “work” of breaking up. And the “hatred” towards her apparently increases with every day that she doesn’t understand this, but continues to work on the relationship and believe in the good in her partner. The fact that something like this happens from time to time – everyone probably had someone in their circle of friends, male and female, who was notorious for being bad at breaking up – is not new, but the amount of reactions to this one tweet was worrying to the horror of numerous women.

And they expressed their disbelief primarily on Tiktok. “When I asked a friend about the ‘When you start hating your girlfriend’ trend and he confirmed that it was true,” one user wrote, sharing a video of her astonished face. Another woman clarifies: “Let this thread be a reminder of how deliberate men are. Sisters, stop making excuses if they don’t treat you well. Men can think. Men feel, they plan, they trick. If you “If you’re being neglected, disrespected, ignored or disregarded in your relationship, it’s not an accident. It’s entirely intentional.”

Women are more likely to want to stay single

The Twitter thread that sparked everything probably didn’t do its participants any favors in the end. Because numerous users on Tiktok are now pleading that being single is perhaps a better option than staying in a relationship with a man who obviously doesn’t really want it. However, as we all know, you often only know what you had when you don’t have it anymore – and it might now become much more difficult for some men to find new partners…