Anyone who receives positive feedback is hardly willing to adapt their self-image to reality. If there are complaints, things look a little different.
There is a gap in people’s lives. A gap between desire and reality, between self-image and the image of others. Most people, to put it bluntly, tend to be negligently self-aggrandizing or, on the contrary, to paralyzing self-deprecation. But the gift of objective self-assessment is like a unicorn: everyone has heard of it, no one has ever observed this magical ability outside of the realm of fantasy. This raises the question: How can you bring the assessment of your own abilities, characteristics, quirks and kindnesses at least a little closer to the facts? Fortunately, there are other people who praise or criticize and thus somewhat normalize the distorted self-assessment.