More bed or more beach? Rather room or rather fields? During the summer you don’t know what fly is biting you but you can’t help but make love anywhere other than in your 140×200. Fear of getting caught (no pun intended), wanting to break the routine or little exhibitionist penchant, you have entrusted us with your dreams of coitus far, far away, from your King size. Back to your funny testimonials and a little more serious decryption from our clinical sexologist, Jane Oberdorff.
Getting out of the daily grind
“With my companion, we worked together for a long time and we sometimes made love in the storeroom at our workplace,” confides Marie*. For us, it was an opportunity to spice up our life as a couple and break the routine! Ditto for Lucas*, another reader of 20 minutes “I love doing it outdoors. Unusual places are really a good way to avoid falling into routine. »
A routine idea that often comes up in the testimonials of our readers. According to our sexologist Jane Oberdoff, the fact of wanting to break with the daily grind hides a more unconscious will: “More than unusual, I believe that it is the notion of prohibition that shines through in the various testimonies. Indeed, the excitement comes a lot from the feeling of transgressing laws, rules, morals or even ethics. “It also comes from the fear or even the adrenaline of being surprised”, assures the professional.
A naughty complicity
“The sex outdoors for me is important. It allows you to create a certain bond,” says Lou*. For the one who has tested “roofs, car hoods or even fitting rooms”, it is ultimately the sharing of a naughty and comical adventure with her partner that makes the moment unique. Same story with Nadia who indulged in improvised sex with her partner in the middle of the evening with friends. “We slipped away. We really wanted, there right away, to feel and feel each other, ”she confides.
According to Jane Oberdoff, more than the place, it is the strength of the fantasy that takes precedence, the idea that we had made of this moment that prevails: “It is our imagination that pushes us out of bed. Moreover, for the sexologist, many people think that making love in places that are out of the ordinary will give better sex.
Powerful and energizing hormones
But do you get off on a sandy beach more than on your Bultex mattress? Yes and no if we are to believe Jane Oberdoff: “What makes outdoor sex so exciting for those who practice it is physiologically explained. When two partners decide to make love in an extraordinary place, they unknowingly trigger their sympathetic nervous system. “This nervous system controls the body’s automatic functions, such as breathing or the beating of the heart,” explains our expert.
If the strength of the fantasy and the realization of the latter obviously play on the intensity of the moment, this nervous system which bears its name well allows it to release powerful and energizing hormones. “These hormones stimulate orgasm and make ejaculation faster,” explains the sexologist. And it’s not Cyril* who will say the opposite: “one of my most unusual experiences is also the most extraordinary! “.
The race for achievement
Obviously Charles has started a tour of France of unusual places to get laid: “the confessional of a church, a public garden, a field, a discotheque, a cinema, a swimming pool, a beach, an underground car park, a train, a school bus, in the middle of a roundabout, on a motorway bridge, at the top of a slag heap, etc. Because sometimes, let’s be honest, sex outdoors, it’s also a race for achievement where the multitude of places and spots is more important than pleasure. “There is a real pressure around sex in atypical places. It’s a recurring topic of conversation among friends,” says Jane Oberdoff.
Yet making love outdoors or in a forbidden place is also and above all a question of taste and personality. “It’s like a carnival. Some people love bumper cars and others the Big 8, that can’t be explained,” quips the sexologist.
What is important is therefore to have fun, to give pleasure also why not but above all not to put pressure on yourself. Because as our expert says so well: “You haven’t missed your sex life if you’ve never made love in an unusual place”. Capitate?
*The testimonials being collected anonymously, we have arbitrarily assigned first names to make the reading easier.