Mother’s Day: We asked the stern readers what they would like to thank their mothers for

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We asked the stern readers what they would like to thank their mothers for – these are their answers

Mother’s Day is often a day full of conflicting emotions. This also became apparent after we asked you, dear readers, on Instagram what you are grateful for on Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day is a difficult day. Some mothers are handed tulips and chocolates even though such gestures mean nothing to them, and others are left empty-handed because of the offspring believes, such gestures would mean nothing to them. Occasionally gifts have to make up for the fact that as adults we never learned to speak openly and as equals with one another. How different the feelings of our readers are towards this day was also shown when we asked on InstagramWhat You Are Thankful For On Mother’s Day.

The relationship between adult children and their mothers is often complicated, sometimes even after years of problems there is no contact at all. Then the annual reminder that children and mothers should “actually” love each other is particularly difficult. For example, Oliver wrote to us: “It’s hard for me to talk about my mother because I’ve had so many negative experiences with her in my life. It’s a complicated relationship.” He explains, “She was often ignorant of my needs and desires and would often cast me out when I didn’t meet her expectations. I tried to mend that relationship, but it never seemed possible.”

Mother’s Day: Not a nice date for everyone

Oliver’s bitter conclusion: “It’s sad to say but I feel like I never got the love I needed from my mother. I wish it had been different and that we had had a positive relationship. I think it’s important that we all try to have a healthy relationship with our parents, but when that’s not possible, we have to learn to distance ourselves from them and live our own lives.”

From other submissions it can be inferred that a happy childhood cannot be taken for granted – but that people can develop further, also because times and views change. “My mother was a much better grandmother than a mother. My childhood was characterized by constraints and prohibitions. But as a grandmother she was great and always there,” writes Geli.

Mother-child relationships can be complex

And many adults think lovingly of their mother on this day – but also with sadness if she is no longer alive. “Unfortunately, the coming Mother’s Day is the first without my mother, she passed away last year,” Reinhild wrote to us. “I will forever be grateful to her for always being there for me and my family! There was never a ‘no’ when asked for help.”

A reader with the Instagram name “Maikind78” also wrote that he was extremely grateful “for my mum, who died eleven years ago on Mother’s Day. We miss you every day.” And: “Thank you for your patience, Mom,” writes Aso. “I miss you very much.”

Moms should always be on our side

Our mother is often our closest person. And at best, she’s always on our side and cheers us on, even when we’ve long since grown up. “My mom is just an angel without wings. Always there when I need her. I don’t need Mother’s Day on the calendar – I just thank her every day for what she does for me,” writes Sandra, for example. And such a close bond is (fortunately) not an isolated case: “Always there for me,” Susanne wrote us succinctly. And Andrea wants to say: “Dear mom, even if it wasn’t always easy, thank you for making me what I am today.”

Incidentally, it does not always have to be the biological mother whose existence you are happy about. “Since I’ve been married, I’ve finally had a mother (in-law) and she’s the best I could wish for,” Anni writes to us. And on Mother’s Day you can of course also be happy as a mother, namely about your own children: “When I wasn’t feeling well, my daughter came to me and said she was always there for me,” Sara tells us about her life on the subject of Mother’s Day .