Capucine wants to break the taboo of domestic violence in adolescence – J. Urbach / 20 Minutes
- Capucine suffered violence from her ex-boyfriend when she was only in high school.
- Today, the student wishes to testify in order to sensitize young women to a reality that does not only concern adults.
While the voice is freed up around domestic violence, we know less that this phenomenon also affects teenage girls. At 20, Capucine decided to break this taboo by revealing, via an Instagram post published last week on her account
Ovaries the Rainbow, having been a victim when she was a high school student. The Nantes student told 20 minutes the psychological, physical and sexual violence she experienced for three years. She hopes in this way to make young people aware of this reality which does not only affect adults.
“It has become unhealthy”
“We got together at the end of 3rd, in 2015, I was 15 years old. He was my first real boyfriend, the man of my life, what! At first, it was a normal teenage relationship. We didn’t live under the same roof but it quickly became unhealthy. In high school, he put pressure on me, pinched me… In the evening, I was at boarding school, he forced me to phone him so that I could not spend time with my friends. On weekends, at my parents’ house, he was very nice to them but it was different when we were both together. After the psychological hold came the physical violence. He kept me awake, pushed me out of bed, tore my review sheets… Once, on vacation, he threw a shoe in my face for a photo story. He also forced me to have sex. I refused, he didn’t care. I was crying but he didn’t see the problem, so it is
marital rape. “
“My reaction, protect him”
“Every time I had beatings or puffy eyes, I would make up a lie so I wouldn’t have to tell my parents. I always had the same reaction, to protect him: no matter what age, we are so under the influence of the person that we tell ourselves that they are not really like that. Besides, it was my first relationship, I had no point of comparison. Once, I told him that I wanted to leave him: he humiliated me by telling me that no one would want me. And finally, one day, he cheated on me, at a complicated time in my life because I had just lost my grandmother. It was in April 2018, the click. It was difficult for me to succeed in cutting the bridges, because I continued to feel guilty. It was when I met my new and current boyfriend that I finally understood what a normal and healthy relationship was. “
“It was for adults”
“A few months later, I started having flashbacks, especially at night. Then I met the association Solidarity women, people who have experienced the same thing, volunteers who explained the mechanisms to me. In fact, I knew very well what domestic violence was, but for me it was for adults. I was aware that what I was going through was not normal, but I did not recognize myself in the representations, as in the series Big Little Lies with Nicole Kidman, the story of an older woman, of a couple married. If I testify, it is to tell other young women that it also exists at our age. It’s super important to put in words. “
” To buckle the buckle “
“Since then, I have seen a psychiatrist and a psychologist in particular to help me resolve my sleep problems and overcome my traumas, especially sexual ones. I launched my Ovaires the rainbow project and my podcasts, and I finally managed to tell my parents about it. They blamed each other for not having seen anything, but it couldn’t have been otherwise, I took so much on myself… I filed a complaint in October 2020, it’s very important to close the loop, to feel legitimate as a victim. There hasn’t been a sequel yet, but I just wish he understood that he didn’t have the right to treat me like that. Today, I feel useful and a little more confident, hoping that my testimony can help make a difference. “